Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?
No not really. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 17. Didn’t really have what I would call kinky sex until I was in my twenties. I think my first time being tied up is a good contender for this question. I liked it way too much! LOL. Still do!
List your kinks.
Well, I definitely like rough sex. Love for Sir to take complete control of me.
Being tied up or restrained.
Love being flogged, spanked, whipped.
Anything that Sir tells me to do….
I’m very open minded when it comes to kinks. And to list them all would go on forever really. Its easier to do my limits. There are a only a few things that are DEFINITE NO-NOs: No urine or feces play, no blood play or cutting. Everything else I’m pretty much open to trying at least once. LOL.
So I’m jumping on the 30 Days of Kink bandwagon, lol why not? That doesn’t mean I won’t be posting other stuff, I will still but also will be doing this. So here we go…
Day 1: Dom, sub, Switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically describe your kinky self.
Ok, so I’m a submissive.
What this means to me that I am happiest when in the service of my Sir. I love pleasing him, making sure his life is easier. I love the tasks he gives me and the rules we have (although sometimes I do forget them). To me being submissive is a choice, its a choice I make everyday to Sir. I choose to give him all the power and the control. Even when I don’t ‘feel’ like being submissive I must be because that is what we have agreed upon. It’s not about what I want it is about what he wants and needs and I am happy to give it to him.
Before me and Sir decided to live a D/s lifestyle our roles were pretty much reversed. I was the type-A personality controlling, did whatever i felt like doing when i felt like doing it. Since we have turned the tables at first it was hard. It really was, I had to sit down and think about what being submissive meant to me. About the change that was about to happen, a change that desperately NEEDED to happen. So we did it. And we both have been the happiest in our marriage.
So basically our BDSM life is one of mutual respect, but also me knowing my place. He is the head of everything. He makes all the decisions and what he says is final. It is my job to submit unto him in every way possible.