Kink of the Week: High Heels

Hmmn, my thoughts on high heels…I’m all for them. I used to wear them a lot. I think they are very sexy. However now that I’ve gained a little weight and got Lupus its hard for me to wear heels for a long period of time. I can wear the ones with a thick heel longer than a stiletto. High Heels accentuate your legs, especially if they are long. Well even if they are short they make your legs look longer.

We only dress up every once in a while and I’ll put on some heels but I always have a pair of flat shoes in my purse for if I have to change. I wonder what Sir thinks of heels. I’ve never asked him about it. I will have to asked him about it today.

Define Your Kink: Day 1

So a blog that I follow (Chasing Me, Chasing You) has come up with a 30 days to define your submission. 30 questions to answer to help you define your submission. I have decided to answer the questions here on my blog as well.

Day 1: Do you view your submission as: Taken in hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, owner/pet, DD/lg; or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?

I view my submission strictly as Dominant/submissive. I would like to add a little more domestic discipline into the relationship.We are taking things slow..a little too slow for my liking but we have to go at Sir’s pace and I understand that.

I know a lot of people don’t like labels but I do for some reason. Maybe its my obsession with structure I feel safe and secure knowing exactly what dynamic we are. I understand the people that don’t like labels and nothing against them it just isn’t for me.


So, I was going over my schedule today at my infusion. Its been pretty crazy since I got out of the hospital. Getting ready for Christmas and that business. Getting settled back into work and thinking about upcoming topics to write about in my blog. If that wasn’t busy enough I went and entered myself in two dog shows in January.

January 7th and 8th, I will be heading to Evansville for an obedience trial with Capone. January 14th and 15th I will showing Presco in a rally trial here. The following weekend I will be attending a seminar for dog handlers here. I’m not working a dog just auditing the seminar. Plus there is a cool play party that me and Sir want to attend. February, the 4th and 5th I am thinking about doing another rally trial here. But If I don’t have anyone to show then I wont do it. Then, we have Beat My Valentine the 17th, 18th, and 19th in Indianapolis. March 16th-19th is the Kentuckiana Cluster of dog shows. March 31st-April 2nd, Sir and I are going to Chicago with Capone to trial in an International Conformation show by our USA-Box klub. April 3rd-8th I will be travelling for work for training in Indianapolis. May 5-7th is the American Boxer Specialty in Indianapolis. May 14th-16th I am going to a submissive’s retreat intensive in Indianapolis. I’m really excited about that. And May 27th-28th is another obedience dog show in Evansville. June 10th-11th is Rally Fest in Evansville another dog trial. Don’t know for sure if I am going to go to that one.

So, the first 6 months of the year are going to be busy. I didn’t even mention the monthly local BDSM community stuff that will be going on. And I have to find time write about all these things here, lol. But that will be easy. I love writing about my little adventures wither it be in the dog show world or the kink world. Plus I will be writing about topics as they come and how me and Sir are doing in our D/s. Lots to write about, huh? LOL

2017 Goals


  • Eat healthier (make better choices, take lunch to work,)
  • Workout with Sir (1-2 times a week)
  • Continue with waxes
  • Continue with hair appts
  • Try to stay out of the hospital
  • Wear makeup more (stop being lazy)


  • Learn Excel, Access, i2 programs
  • Get ahead in projects

Dog Goals

  • Heidi: Rally Excellent and Novice titles
  • Capone: Rally Advanced, Beginner Novice, and CGC titles
  • Presco: Rally Advanced


  • Beat My Valentine–Indianapolis, IN
  • Kinky Kollege–Chicago, IL
  • Servants Retreat–Indianapolis, IN
  • Dog Shows- Evansville, IN
  • FCI Dog Show-Chicago, IL
  • ABC National Specialty Dog Show-Indianapolis, IN


  • Continue being involved in local community
  • Attend seminars and conferences about the lifestyle
  • Continue growing in D/s with Sir
  • Keep house cleaner


  • Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!!!
  • Date night once a week
  • Workout together


  • Continue to get out of debt
  • Cut out on fast food
  • Cut out unnecessary spending

Smaller list than last year. I tried not to give myself unrealistic expectations. I will also do better about writing down the journey in this blog. I’m really concentrated this year on BDSM and the dogs getting their titles. My job also is in that too. I want to learn how to do more so I don’t feel like a complete idiot. Here’s to 2017 and my new goal list. Im guessing I hope you guys will be my accountability partners LOL. Help keep me on track.

Ok, so I wrote about all the bad things in 2016. At the end I am thankful for a lot:

* My wonderful Husband/Sir

* My boxer dogs.

* My job

* My in-law family

* My small family

* The ability to not want for anything. 

* My new kink family in my local community and online community

* The 132 followers I have on wordpress. Wow! It humbles me and moves me to tears that so many people like mt blog. I hope it helps. 


Happy New Year Everyone! Please be safe when going out tonight!!

2016 in a nutshell….


OK so 2016 was an awful year me and Sir almost got a divorce (three times), I was hospitalized twice and countless Emergency Room visits. A lot of people I knew died this year. When I think of 2016 I wanna light that bitch on fire and forget it ever happened. The only thing to do now is to look forward to 2017 and what it will bring. I will not dwell on 2016.

Christmas was probably the beginning of the light at the end of the tunnel. Sir got me aa pink Under Armour hoodie. If you guys didn’t know I could be a spokesperson for Under Armour. I love their products, especially in the winter when I’m training my dogs outside. He noticed I didn’t have a pink one and pink is my favorite color so he got me one. He also got me an Under Armour Jacksonville Jaguar t-shirt as well. I got him a Nike Fleece outfit, hoodie and sweatpants. All he wears most of the time are sweatpants so I knew he would like it. He wore it on Christmas to his mom’s house and my grandmas house.

Oh wait, I almost forgot…someone got their collar back!!! Yay!!

So screw you 2016….come on 2017 lets do this!