“Subbies” Offensive???

Ok, so I have a question for you fellow s-types out there. Is anyone offended by the use of the word “subbies”? I know this is probably a silly question but I joined a group on Facebook (yeah, I know that was my first mistake, LOL) and in my introduction thread I addressed everyone as “Hello fellow subbies…” I got warm responses from most but one of the groups admins was like “Please refuse (yeah, i think the right word would have been ‘refrain’) from using the word subbies in this group”. I innocently posted back “Well, I apologize if I offended anyone, I’ve never heard of a sub being offended by the use of the word subbies…”…her reply “No problem and yes it does offend”…..

So, I just thought I’d ask if anyone else gets offended by that. She’s the first person who’s said they were offended. No one else in the group said anything about being offended. Even the other admin was taken by surprise by the other girls comment. It was just weird. I don’t know. I don’t see anything wrong with using the word subbies. But I do still consider myself new and still learning about the life but haven’t ran into one person who is offended by that.

19 thoughts on ““Subbies” Offensive???

  1. Why is it that all the immature/crazy people are on Facebook?????? Seriously, I quit Facebook because some fruitcake who claimed to live in Tennessee threatened (in a group chat) to kill me, and had other people (his friends & followers) volunteer to kill me for him/help him kill me all because he disagreed with something I said. I mean, you disagree with me, you don’t speak to me any more, you block me…you don’t threaten to murder me and/or incite OTHER PEOPLE to murder me.

    Now as for the word “subbies” in and of itself, that doesn’t bother me. What bothers me is these bossy people who run some of these Facebook or Google + groups and the way they think they’re god almighty.

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    • LOL, I agree Cara! WTF?? Plotting to murder someone is taking it way to far. He has lost his mind. That’s definitely a little crazy. Some do really think they are the almighty all knowing of everything in those groups. I’ve noticed since being in them.


      • He plotted to murder me, and because Facebook makes you put your first and last name, and he had the town where he lived in Tennessee, and because I’m not an idiot, I googled him and found out he was on parole for having assaulted his ex-fiance. So I called his parole officer down in TN and had a nice chat. The moral of the story is I am not to be fucked with.


  2. Oh, yeah, I’ve encountered this before. People get butthurt about all sorts of things, but in the particular case I encountered it, they were offended because they saw it as trivializing the role- like saying little iddy bitty subbie as though you were talking to/about a child.

    I’m not saying you did that, but that’s what I got from hearing somebody talk about it from her perspective.. I can kinda see where she’s coming from, but I’m not one to take things too seriously either.

    All you can do is be yourself. Some people will always find a way to get upset over something no matter what it is, but that’s on them.


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    • Yeah I can understand her point of view on that totally. Totally wasn’t meaning to make it sound like that. But this girl didn’t even tell me why it offended her so…I was just like “Ummn, ok…” LOL….I guess ya can please everyone LOL. I should know this by now LOL


  3. I think it cute 🙂 to me it’s a term for a little or a middle so I guess and adult sub might not like to be called subbie but by using the term it just shows your identity:) people can be dumb


  4. Hey ULK!! 🙂 I’m fairly new at this too but I have read that in the ‘more established D/s communities’ the word subbie is actually a derogatory term used by others in the community when you have done something really wrong ….. Perhaps this person had some experience with that. I know I was quite surprised (not offended) when I noticed it was used so liberally now a days…. Just my two cents. 🙂

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  5. In any sufficiently large group, there will be someone who is offended by anything and everything you do… especially on facebook.

    But if they are a moderator, than their word is law in that group. I would say don’t worry about it too much outside of that.

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  6. I don’t think the word is offensive, though I am not really a sub. The word “subbies” gets used alot in Australia as it’s generally used for sub-contractors. FB people tend to be over sensitive.


  7. Pffft….I’m a sub, calling me what I am is not offensive. ‘Subbie’ is cute sounding sure, but nope, not offensive. Some people need to relax and lighten up about their roles. Now if you started talking down to me and being disrespectful? Whole different ball game.

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  8. I would look for another group. I was in a pretty good one on FB and if interest let me know I can put you in touch with someone. Hopefully it’s not the same group. LOL


  9. I hadn’t heard it used offensively before or taken offensively before. I agree with you ladies, it’s cute I’ve used it among my sub sisters and I’m not offended by it. I mean some subs are littles so technically you could have just been speaking to them if they took it as little subs….at 5’1″ I’m a little sub lol ~ k


  10. Oh yes… I’m completely offended by it that I chose it for a name! LMAO!!! Although, I spelled it different/wrong. Perhaps that was the offense? lol.
    I’d most definitely let it roll off your back. People are offended by everything these days.

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