So we’ve been involved in the BDSM world for 4 months now. The one thing I don’t understand are switches, people that sometimes are Doms and other times they are subs. Seeing it online doesn’t bother me as much as in real life because I don’t know what role they are playing and how I should address them. It’s confusing. It’s like “today I’m Dom” ok, “tomorrow I’m a sub”. In my mind I’m just like make up your mind either be a Dom or a sub.
I think its ok every once in a while if your Dom asks you to switch roles for a scene. But I don’t see how you can be both a Dom and sub. I am a sub and I am studying everything there is to study about being a sub and I still have so much more to learn. If you are studying to be both a Dom and sub, it seems almost impossible.
I mean I have nothing against switches, I just don’t understand it. I hope this post doesn’t come across as me bashing switches. Its definitely not meant to be that way. It’s just something so far in the lifestyle that I just don’t understand and its confusing to me. It gets me frustrated because in a public setting I just don’t know what hat they are wearing and how I should address them like at a play party. Like if we are at a informal gathering like our groups weekly coffees, its not an issue because its all laxed.