My Surprise…Fail…sort of!!

LOL, so I decided to get the We Vibe 4 Plus vibrator for a present for Sir so he could control it while I was on my trip this weekend…Well what I didn’t know is he purchased the We Vibe 3 a while ago and was going to surprise me with it tonight, LOL. So what do we do???? Keep both he says! LOL

The We Vibe 3 can’t be controlled by bluetooth, so he could only use it when we are close to each other.

How funny that we got pretty much the same toy. Great minds think alike I guess, LOL! I guess we will be having a lot of fun!

Trying to explain your Collar to you 85 year old Grandmother….

So, I went to lunch with my grandmother today and of course I had my collar on. Now my grandma is the one person in the world that I can’t lie to. So I told her over the phone a couple of days ago that I got my collar. Her reaction: “Oh my God, you’re wearing a dog collar,”…I told her it wasn’t a dog collar. But she insisted it was a dog collar possibly with spikes. LOL. So I haven’t mentioned my collar and I picked her up for lunch this afternoon.

I didn’t say anything about my collar. She started the conversation “Your collar is really nice, its like a necklace” I was surprised she saw it that way. She was very nice and even excited about the collar. Then we had the BDSM talk. I had to explain that Sir does not beat me with a stick (sort of, lol). I had to explain that BDSM is part of our D/s relationship but its not the only thing about our relationship. Its about respect and letting him lead and making sure he is at ease when he comes home from a hard days work. She seemed relieved. She said she saw on “Criminal Minds” that a guy was part of a BDSM club and had rough sex and got killed. She thought that at some point Sir would kill accidentally. I told her we are Safe, Sane and consensual (SSC). I told her that I trust Sir and that he’s not going to kill me. So she seemed a little bit more relieved. As far as the collar goes I just told her it’s like a wedding ring. It symbolizes his ownership of me.

Then I had to make a stop to our local Adam and Eve store to pick up a present I had gotten for Sir. I got the  We Vibe 4 Plus vibrator. I can’t wait to use it when I’m gone on a trip this weekend. Sir can control it from anywhere because its blue tooth.

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Pretty cool looking huh? It has a G-Spot vibrator and a clitoral vibrator so it will interesting trying this. It comes with an app that Sir can use to control the vibrator. I will wear it all weekend at the conference and anytime Sir feels the need to press the button, I will get a pleasant surprise. Ha! I can’t wait. Oh by the way Granny stayed in the care while I ran in an purchased it. LOL.

Now I really must get off here because I have yet to finish packing and I’m leaving at 4am for Columbus. You Probably won’t hear from me for a couple of days but I will bore you with the details of the conference and every time I get my “Surprise” LOL. Until next time stay kinky my friends!

A Shameless Thirty-One Promo..lol

Hello All, So this is a shameless plug of the Thirty-One Business. I am a Consultant and since I will no longer be working this is my source of working income now. So I am working hard on it. If you have never heard of Thirty-One then check out my site. There are a lot of cool things. You can actually place an order from my site as well if you see something you like. We sell stuff like monogram bags, purses, jewelry, and totes. Pretty nice stuff. Here’s the link to my site http://www.mythirtyone.com/ellashaferriell . Happy Shopping. And anyone who orders I will send a free gift to you. And thank you for your business!

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Suggestion:

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Collars, Vanilla Weddings, Oh my!!

Yay! It’s here. Thank you “Ring of Steel” for 2 Day Priority Shipping, LOL. I got it in time enough to wear to my friends very Vanilla wedding last Saturday. Yeah, I know, I’ve been working on this post since Saturday….LOL…

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One of my good vanilla friends got married last Saturday night and we were guests at the wedding. It was the first outing that I wore my collar to. Well it was the first time I wore my collar at all. I was a little nervous that someone would say something about it or ask me about it but no one did. It felt natural wearing it after about an hour.

I am very proud to wear this collar that my Sir has given me. I feel honored that he thought it was time for me to be collared. It makes me want to submit to him so much more. I am more concentrated now in my submission to him. I am currently trying to work on patience as we go through this journey at Sir’s pace.

I’ve been doing my kneeling exercises. I know its been a bit since I have written in here. I plan on doing better with that. As it will help me in my journey. But it’s just hard to sit down and write sometimes but I’ve got to muster through it. Any who…just thought I’d write about how I’m a Collared submissive now and how honored I feel that Sir deemed me fit to wear his collar. His sign of complete ownership of me.

Tonight we will go to our local BDSM group’s humpday Coffee meeting. We are supposed to be meeting another couple there which will be fun. I will definitely write about it. Until then “Stay Kinky my friends” LOL.

Mr. Hiatachi….Ummn Wow!!

So, my last post about Mr. Hitachi Magic Wand was about it arriving…now that I have used it…ummmn WOW….is all I can say… I mean seriously a toy that can bring that much pleasure should be illegal, LOL. OMG! Just thought I’d add my 2 cents. Know I’m a little late on the Magic Wand train but hey at least I finally got on it!! LOL.

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Yay! So Sir thinks it is time to collar me. So we looked at tons of collared and agreed upon the above picture. We ordered it today from Ring of Steel (www.ringofsteel.net). I am very excited. I will wear this collar 24/7. I will have a key for emergency purposes only. But I am expected to wear it all the time.

Collaring is a very important thing in the D/s relationship. It signifies the Dominants ownership of his submissive. Very much like a wedding band symbolizes the union of two people. We are very excited to come to this step in our relationship and I am very honored to wear Sir’s collar.

I will be on pins on needles until it gets here.

Stay Kinky My friends (in my ‘most interesting man in the universe’ voice)

Going Brazilian….

So, today was my first experience getting a full Brazilian. Mind you I have always shave that area. But I suddenly got tired of shaving and was like ‘Hey I’ll give this Brazilian thing a try’. Well I was nervous at the beginning to say the least but my technician was so nice and took it easy on me being my first time. I mean I was thinking so many things could go wrong. What if I fart? What if it hurts so much that I bladder leaks a little bit? so many things to think about, LOL. Silly things though. Oh and the big one, letting a total stranger see your ladybits is a mess. Most of my nerves subsided when I laid down on the table though.

I went to my favorite Spa and they are always professional and know what they are doing. So I kept reassuring myself that nothing would go wrong, I just needed to breathe.

I found that the top part, the end of my stomach part hurt the most. She said that was a sensitive area. But everything else really didn’t hurt at all. Other than feeling like she was ripping a band aid off it really didn’t hurt. It took maybe an hour to do.

I had planned on going to the gym after the waxing but she told me that I should abstain from doing anything to make myself sweat. So I scheduled my appointment for my next one in six weeks.

I was sure I would be waddling out of the Spa awkwardly. However, I walked out just fine, LOL. Me and my silly mind.

Well that experience was overall was good, I would say I am a fan and will definitely be getting on the bandwagon of Brazilian!!

Thank You!!

Thank You…Yes you who is reading this. I want to thank all the people that follow my blog. I never imagined I would have so many people that would care enough to read let alone follow my blog. I love writing and I believe I am getting better at it. I love sharing our D/s journey. So again THANK YOU! I really appreciate you!

Our First Play Party

So last night we went to our first Play party. We brought a couple of our vanilla (I hope the night made them a little bit more Kinkier, lol). I got a new out fit from Spencer’s and Cirillas. My first time wearing a corset and a cute little skirt, fishnet thigh highs, and four inch heels. I was a little uncomfortable with the 4 inch heels and I was sure I was gonna wipe out in them. But they were sexy. So I definitely needed them. The girl at Cirillas was really helpful!

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So I was nervous all day. I’ve read about Play parties but never really experienced one. But I was excited at the same time. I counted down the seconds until it was time. I told my best friend (who is vanilla) about us going to the party and asked her if she wanted to come. She was definitely down to come. So at least we would know one person there and have someone to talk to.

So finally it was time to get ready. My friend had to put me in my corset, I was a little concern about the cleavage but my friend assured me that is how its supposed to look. I swear I could set a beer on my chest, LOL.

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And there it is all put together! So we got there around 1015-1030. It was in a warehouse looking building. Oh and stufpid me forgot my 4 inch heels at home. I was going to wear flats in and put my heels on when I got there. So I had to walk around barefoot all night. But it was ok, I didn’t mind. Anyway, there were dungeon crosses, spanking table, stockade, doctor table, and suspension hooks. It was was pretty awesome.The first scene we saw was a rope scene. It was great, it got intense towards the end and she was screaming while he spanked her hard. It was semi dark but you could see her ass was completely red. It was a little hard to watch, but I had to keep telling myself that it was consensual and this is what she liked and wanted. Afterwards he did great aftercare with her by hold her and kissing her. There was a lot of rope play. Which was nice because that it something that Sir is interested in. We even got our first lesson in rope tying. He tied my ankles and legs up.

I expected there to be more nudity, but for the most part everyone was fully dressed. Except this guy in a wheelchair he was completely naked. We dressed accordingly you saw what I wore. My friend wore a black corset and black skirt with knee high boots. I was relieved when we got there and saw what people were wearing, we fit right in. We talked to the guy who put it on, we met him when we went to a Slosh. He is very nice and welcoming. Actually everyone we came across was very nice and welcoming. Both me and my friend wore protection collars. A lot of people liked mine, it was silver with a lock and key set. Definitely reminded me of this blog, when I saw it in the store. I had to have it.

There was a scene that was very hard to watch. A woman was on a Dungeon Cross for at least 30 minutes and took a beating that was out of this world. She was caned, flogged, whipped and a few other things I didn’t know what they were. Her screams were probably the worst. When they were done he did great aftercare with her. She looked completely exhausted but satisfied.

My friends husband joined us a little after we got there. and we were approach by a nice girl who showed us how to flog and play with the crop. She gave us tips and everything. She even gave us presents. Her flogger was awesome. Me and my friend got flogged by our husbands. It was nice. I really liked it. Sir did a great job. But he had a great teacher too. We so didn’t expect to play that night. We were just going to observe. But we ended up playing a little and it was great. I can’t wait until the next one, maybe we will play again.

We left about 1:30. Sir had to be up for work at 4:30. So he didn’t get much sleep. I think my vanilla friend and her husband had a great time as well. Like I said earlier the people couldn’t have been nicer. I really like our BDSM community here. We saw a couple of people that we knew from the Slosh and that was nice. But overall I think we have a wonderful experience at the Play Party.

I asked the guy who put it together what were the rules for doing a scene. It was the Grand Opening of the space called ReMix, and there were no rules posted on the event on Fetlife. Well he said the main rule for that night was no penetration, no sex. But he said he planned on having a party next month that will allow sex. That will be interesting to see. I can’t wait. I wonder if my friend and her husband would join us next time. They did seem to enjoy themselves. I’m trying to get them to come over to the kinky-side. LOL! We will see.

Ok…its time to Kneel…

I know I said the next post would be about the Play Party went to Saturday night, but I had another topic that I wanted to discuss. Kneeling. Pretty important right?

Ok, so the past 3 weeks I have either been in the Emergency Room or extremely sick with my Lupus. My body has really been against me. Sir has been super patient and nice taking care of me. He’s suspended pretty much all protocols until I get better. Obviously the ones that aren’t physical like calling him Sir or text messing him when I wake up in the morning were still in play. I had planned on Kneeling for Sir and officially giving him my submission, 3 weeks ago. But because of being sick I haven’t been able to do it. So finally I am healthy enough to do it officially. I am going to do it today when he comes home for work. We’ve already talked about it. I know what I am supposed to wear and will be ready when he gets home.

Kneeling is a big deal. At least to me it is being a submissive. It signifies that I am giving total control of my life to him. That I trust him to make the right decisions for me. As a Dominant this is a big responsibility. I am currently doing a kneeling exercise, where I kneel for 10 minutes a day, just to think and concentrate on my submission to Sir and think how I can improve my submission to him.

Me and Sir talked last tonight and he thinks I am ready for a collar. We looked at some collars and we have agreed on a collar of protection- one that I will wear to BDSM functions such as Munches, Play Parties, Sloshes, etc. So no other Dom’s approach me thinking I am an available submissive. We also agreed on a traditional collar that will be worn inside the house and is discreet enough to be worn outside the house as well. We will purchase the collars on Thursday. So I guess this week and next week we have some pretty big events happening in our D/s life.